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Why did I even start?!

I’ve been having a bit of a clean out recently and noticed it gets messier before it gets cleaner.

That’s why it can feel daunting. Easy to put off.

You usually reach a midpoint where you regret starting, feel overwhelmed and resent having to push on.

👉 I guess change can be like that, can’t it?

We create more work for ourselves in the short term, but goodness, once we’re through and looking back, why on earth did we wait so long? 

Let's get into it.

I end my email newsletter with the following:

“When you know how to change behaviour, you can change your world.”

Your was deliberate.

I could have said the world, but that seemed grandiose.

By your I mean whatever you define your world to be. 

That could be your community, your business, your family.

Because it’s your behaviour and the behaviour of those around you that you can influence.

How well you influence, that’s entirely a question of technique.

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“But I wasn’t properly trained!”

It’s a familiar excuse when people are found in breach of some sort of requirement. 

• During Covid it was protective equipment protocols.
• In restaurants, food handling standards.
• In organisations, security or privacy regulations.

But what does properly trained actually mean?

To be properly trained means behaviour needs to change.

We need to influence people to do X instead of Y.

Yet most training programs are based on knowledge, not behaviour.

Have...

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These desires are usually unstated, but know that they’re there.

Here's the subtlety, though.

It’s not gaining money, influence and power that really motivates, although that’s nice.

👉 It’s losing these things.

The main reason change initiatives fail is people’s fear of losing what they have.

Fear of losing cred...

I've been having serious computer issues recently – repeated crashes and lots of frustrating downtime. 

The immediate cause is iMovie, the video editing software I use. I've been putting up with these problems because I know how to use the software and all my videos are stored there

👉 However, this isn't just a technology issue; it's a behavioural one. 

I'm sacrificing productivity and sanity for the comfort of familiarity. 

By clinging to what I know, even though it's causing problems, I...

In my experience, changing personal behaviour looks like this:

1. “I should” - recognising the need for change
2. “I will” - resolving to change
3. “I am” - doing something different or differently
4. “I did” - moving from the original intent

Each stage has its challenges.

1. I should

I should exercise more. I should eat differently. I should call my loved ones more. I should work less.

Shoulds can feel exceptionally draining because this type of self-talk reminds us of what we’re not.

It ...

What’s the most fundamental life skill that doesn't get formally taught?

👉 Behaviour.

Would you like to change that?

In a few hours I'm taking to the stage at IntuitMailchimp's From Here: To There sold-out conference, sharing ideas with 400 marketers in how to solve the Click Conundrum. 

Last week I spoke to around 60 web and user experience designers in an ASX 50 insurance company.

A few weeks before that I spoke with a sales and marketing leadership team from one of Australia's largest...

Humans like knowing 2 things:

• What will happen. 
• Why it happened.

Both stem from control. We want to make sense of our world so it doesn’t seem chaotic.

In your business you will wonder:

• What will happen when we send this email out? Release this product? Raise my prices?

And later:

• Why didn’t people open our emails? Buy our products? Pay our prices?

Meanwhile, your customers will be thinking:

• What will happen when I click that button? Take that product home? Buy your...

After Stonehenge, the Roman Baths in Bath is the UK’s second most popular tourist attraction. Making a wish was big business for the Baths, with visitors throwing more than $170,000 worth of coins into the pool annually.

When coins were banned, that all changed.

From March 2022, visitors have instead been asked to make a contactless payment or put money in a cash box.

But most chose not to. Only $4,500 was donated last year.

Now, there are clear reasons why banning coins was sensible.

Co...

When an indoor plant is struggling, our instinct is to give it more water.

But that can drown the plant, making it worse.

Some managers are like this, and far too many sales people.

They can tell the person they are engaging with is struggling, but they keep talking anyway.

They share more advice or more information, which only adds to overwhelm.

Overwhelm is one of three core issues when you are trying to influence behaviour, along with Apathy (I can’t be bothered) and Anxiety (I’m worr...